How To: Creative, Non-Threatening Ways To Discipline A Child of Any Age

Creative, Non-Threatening Ways Discipline Your Child

The Spinner

Photo Source: Fisher-Kid.com

Although we love our children more than anything, sometimes they know how to really push our buttons.  Yelling at them is not the answer for it can only lead to back talk and even more yelling. Grounding them or taking things away from them can only get you so far. It’s very important that when you are disciplining your child, they still feel loved. This concept can be tricky based on how stern you are being with them at the time and how sensitive your child is.

Below is a list of non-threatening punishments that I like to call “zingers” for all different ages.  They get your point across to your children, but in clever ways.

For Children:

The “Consequence Spinner”.  The Consequence Spinner by Fisher-Kid.com is genius. This blank dry erase board allows you to write down punishments appropriate for your child and have them spin the wheel to see what happens next. What I like about the spinner is the “Grace Space” in which releaves a little bit of tension away from the board, giving your child the chance to realize what they have done and how they are lucky there was no consequence this time for their actions. To check out the “Consequence Spinner” click here: Fisher-Kids.com.

Put a timer on the television.  When I was younger, I baby-sat for a family who had a television timer hooked to the wall outlet.  I could not believe they actually sold these in-stores and online.  When the kids were misbehaving, being punished,   or just plain old wouldn’t cooperate while the television was on, the TV timer would go off, resulting in the TV not being able to be watched at all without a parent or adult working their magic to turn it back on.  Zing!

Take the batteries out of their favorite toy.  Ah yes, I have been a victim to this. By taking the batteries out of your child’s favorite toy, you are not only getting your point across that you are one step ahead of them, but you are showing them discipline in a non-threatening manner.

For Kids of All Ages:

Change your router password.  So simple, but so awful for a kid of any age.  Having access to a computer, but not being able to use the internet is probably one of the worst things that could happen to your son or daughter. For your child, not being able to get onto his or her favorite online game or children’s site could be awful, but for a teen, a router password change could have the biggest effect.  No access to social media accounts could make a teen feel like their social life is being compromised and no teen wants to ever feel like that.

Create a “behavioral contract”: Sit down with your family and write out a behavioral contract that states what is to be expected of them and what happens the next time they act out of line.  The contract can state the risk losing anything from the computer and/or gaming system’s like their PS3 or Xbox, to the keys to the car and other.  By having this contract signed and dated, this eliminates that “You never said that, I never said that” fight.

Create an “allowance board”.  The allowance board is easy to make and is very effective to those who are old enough to know that money is important to them to buy things. For children and young adults, there is the “quarter board” and for teens, there is the “dollar board”.

How it works: For every time your child, young adult, or teen misbehaves, a quarter or dollar is removed from the board.  The money left on the board by the end of the week is the money they will receive for allowance based on their behavior for that  specific week.

To make a “quarter board”: Take a piece of poster board and tape the quarters to the board that total the amount of the child’s allowance for the week.  When your child misbehaves, one quarter is removed per offense.  The total quarters at the end of the week will be what the child will receive in allowance based on their behavior for that specific week.  Repeat each week.

To make the “dollar board”: Follow the same instructions for the quarter board, except changing the quarters into dollars.

For Teenagers:

“Color My World”. Growing up, there was a high school some of my friends went to that used a method called “Color My World”.  To this day the people I know who when to this school says Color My World is one of the worst punishments they have ever encountered. This punishment could take hours to do and when your teen is done with it, they will be sure not to do whatever it was they did again.

To Color My World: Choose a chapter from any book and hand it to your teen open-faced, along side with a box of color pencils. Your teen will then have to sit down and write out the whole chapter out using the color pencils provided.  Each letter in each word would have to be rotated by a different color in the rainbow in color order until the chapter of the book was finished.  Red, orange, yellow, green, blue, purple; Red, orange, yellow, green, blue, purple.  You catch my drift!

Rise & shine!: If your teen likes to sleep in, have them up extra early over the weekend to help with chores around the house.  No teen likes to be woken up early, especially over the weekend, when they don’t have to be.

When all else fails use the “Fuzzy Slipper” trick: Tell your teenager the next time they are out of line, you will be picking them up in your worst fuzzy slippers, with your hair a mess, and miss-matched pajamas on.  This will really get your point across and your teen will be sure to always have this image in the back of their mind.  LOL, Love you mom!

*Note: These are just some creative tips on how to discipline your child.  However you do decide to discipline your child in your own household is up to you as the parent and is non of my business.  I wanted to share this list in the hopes these tips and tricks help you think outside the box when it comes to punishing or reprimanding your child without lines being crossed and feelings being hurt.

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Happy Wednesday!

- J

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13 thoughts on “How To: Creative, Non-Threatening Ways To Discipline A Child of Any Age

  1. Advice for teenagers sound good, but putting it into practice is another thing when your kid just won’t do it. They are suddenly adults who don’t have to listen anymore when they hit teen years. Patience is def key here. The younger ones are easier to deal with, mostly.

    • I do definitely agree with you, even young adults are starting to act defiant like that as well. Patients is certainly key when dealing with any child no matter what age. I appreciate your comment and thank you for stopping by :)

  2. I am a big proponent of teaching new behaviours to replace the ones you don’t wish to see. That being said, I work with high-need students, and my son has ‘almost-Asperger’s’ syndrome. However, you might be surprised how the principles help typically developing kids learn a new behaviour in a completely non-aversive way, which helps us maintain the bonds we need for learning.

  3. These are some very interesting tips. I will share with my viewers as well. It definitely is no one size fits all and I can see challenges implementing a few, but – you’re right – definitely outside of the box. Thank you!

  4. Reblogged this on Island Vignettes and commented:
    Here is an interesting menu of tips I found through a fellow blogger re: disciplining your child. Depending on where in the world you parents are located, these may not be ideal or a preference. They score highly on the “out-of-the-box” scale however. Let me know your thoughts!

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